About Friends again..

I have been thinkin quite a while bout postin on frens.. Well, Sriram jus kick started it with two posts based on friendship.. So let me tell my views..


I have always wondered about how u meet some ppl and u just hit it off from the first second.. Ur ideals match. Ur thoughts match.. U get each others jokes.. etc.. And u bcum good frens.. From day one..!!

Then there are others whom u have known for ages and ages but u can never get tat degree of closeness with them. U cant really "talk" with them.Jus casual talk.But still u claim u r good frens with them purely cos of da fact tat u have known dem for a really long time.

Yet others ( and most fall in this category) are whom u get to know over time.. With passing time u know dem better..U discover new things about them.. New levels.. time in this case strengthens the bonds.. With passing time u bcum good frens..

Then u have "gangs".. I have always contemplated a lot about this "gang concept".On da one hand its a really good thing. Cos u have a group of ppl who you know will always be there for u.. Whether it is to freak out. Or studies wise..Get work done..Want company etc.. On the other hand., it gets kinda "obligatory" at times.. Any activity has to include everyone.Anyone left out, leads to problems.And u may not be close with all in the gang.. U may not even like some in da gang.. But u have to live with it.
The main problem is tat u cant tel everything about u to everyone in the gang( u tell only some ppl whom u r close to ). But u wanna know everything about everyone in da gang. Certainly a contradiction. ;-) Intra gang secrets are a big NO NO.Which leads to problems.. Den u have inter gang fights.. Gang to gang migration etc. In a way all tat is real fun. So im kinda "for" the gang concept. I think overall being in a gang is better than being a free bird.
But like someone tld me.The main advtg of bein a free bird is tat everyone is ur gang!! U goto the canteen or smthg and u can join any gang ther cos u dont belong to any particular gang and hence aint obligated. Wel its all a matter of personal convenience i guess...
According to me the ideal gang wud be the F.R.I.E.N.D.S gang. Cos its a pukka gang without being too obligatory.. And personally i think 6-7 is the rite size for a gang.Anythin more than tat and u get lost in the crowd.But again , i repeat, it differs person to person.

One more thing which always gets me confused is about keeping in touch with old frens. Acc to me yes u shuld.. But many times ppl just drift apart.. And den , u r in touch just for the sake of it. Which is really dumb.
So , Lately i have come to the following conclusion. Tat good frens are hard to come by so hold on to them.. Stay in touch.. But if u have drifted apart.. Or if ur ideals have changed from before. Or if u have become a different person then i guess its time to move on with a different set of frens.. Tat really hurts i guess. But the important thing is to be true to your own feelings. Not lie to urself..!!

And tat is why i beleive in the quote which sriram put up.. Tat frens are like shoes.. U gotta find the rite fit.. And jus hope tat it fits forever cos sometimes the shoes may change... Sometimes ur feet.. Depressing , yes.. But tats life..

ps :

1. its the bestest feeling wen u meet a old fren and discover tat things are jus the same as always!!

2. nothing beats the feeling when u make a new fren.( makin a new fren bein distinct from meetin a new person)

3. or the feeling wen u attain new levels of closeness with existing frens. By sharing smthg more about urself. ( or vice versa)

point to ponder

"orkuttin" , "chatting" , "smsin" .. and all those other online social networks.( even bloggin??! ) Wat category of frens do they fall under ? Is it possible to attain "any" degree of closeness with a person thro any of those media.. Can these media help in forging new frens?? Or should it only serve as a medium for reinforcing existing friendship? Or is it just a bunch load of crap.. Face to face communications- does it have to be a given,must,necesssity for friendship?

opinions wanted ppl.!!